tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15693384.post7327736590772462761..comments2024-01-31T07:54:13.816-08:00Comments on Diamonds in the Sky with Lucy: Guilt or Gratitude?Kayce aka lucyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01479940262271959482noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15693384.post-83108619241437533682010-02-14T23:12:06.617-08:002010-02-14T23:12:06.617-08:00kigen - nice to see you! "research" it ...kigen - nice to see you! "research" it is!! a fabulous perspective you have.<br /><br />thymekeeper - ah... so fabulous to hear of your florida adventures. restoration of the body and soul is a necessary gift for all!!! thank you for our wonderful blessings.Kayce aka lucyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01479940262271959482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15693384.post-36991157291723334162010-02-14T19:56:34.185-08:002010-02-14T19:56:34.185-08:00Well said Lucy! I just returned from 11 lovely da...Well said Lucy! I just returned from 11 lovely days in Florida. I know that it did my body and soul a world of good, I'm healthier and happier for it, and my gratitude for the opportunity is immense. May you find the same joy! Blessings on your time away!thymekeeperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13032694551614908443noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15693384.post-23717381759280612482010-02-14T09:29:23.283-08:002010-02-14T09:29:23.283-08:00Lucy, the guilt might just be connected to your d...Lucy, the guilt might just be connected to your desire to relate to others who suffer guilt of privilege in your practice. So you're out there doing research using your own experience as material to draw from, instead of a case book, maybe?kigennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15693384.post-47346707346933881762010-02-13T23:56:38.317-08:002010-02-13T23:56:38.317-08:00drw - yes, a little "guilt" does help me...drw - yes, a little "guilt" does help me remember my good fortune and remind me that i don't want to keep a tight grasp just for myself. sharing a little sunshine (in whatever form) is a great gift for both giver and receiver. thanks for stopping by!!<br /><br />pamela - ugh - "violence against ourselves" only leads to violence against others!!! i am a HUGE proponent of the self-care thing... i learned a long time ago that i am definitely not indispensable in what i do and a well-rested, happy me is much more pleasant and productive than an exhausted cranky one!!! btw--we are loving the island!!! xoxoxoKayce aka lucyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01479940262271959482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15693384.post-43212301690839618242010-02-13T23:52:01.572-08:002010-02-13T23:52:01.572-08:00karen - isn't it wild when we feel like we hav...karen - isn't it wild when we feel like we have to hold back our good fortune from our friends? i would so much rather have someone share an authentic experience with me than sidestep their good fortune even if i'm having a rough time... but it can be really hard to judge when to share and when to wait a bit, huh? resentment, however, proves to be one of my ugliest attributes, so i try to avoid it at all costs!!<br /><br />barbara - envy ranks right up there with resentment in my book. glad you're reigning it in :-) wishing you the best as lent arrives. i'm looking forward to being "ashed" in maui :-)<br /><br />SS - oh, i love the attitude of gratitude. i find it's hard to get too upset over much of anything here... wet cameras, lost glasses, rainy walks... LOTS of gratitude for waking up each day with the added bonus of paradise, surrounded by fabulous family!!! xoxoxoKayce aka lucyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01479940262271959482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15693384.post-84994999563877454602010-02-13T23:46:09.060-08:002010-02-13T23:46:09.060-08:00oh my dear, maureen, how serious and enlightened ...oh my dear, maureen, how serious and enlightened you are... i agree with much of what you say and hope you don't see me carrying a big bag of guilt around on my vacation. as someone who posted boatloads about haiti, i can't imagine that you haven't had those twinges of "why am i so fortunate... and other people are dying?" i, too, choose not to see my "good fortune through a film of guilt." alas, sometimes my humanity sneaks through and i find it quite cathartic to spit those crazy thoughts right on out :-) <br /><br />hope you're staying warm in snow-covered DC... believe me when i say, i'm not the least bit guilty to be in the only state in the US with no snow right now :-)Kayce aka lucyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01479940262271959482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15693384.post-74170300706937167672010-02-13T05:42:27.307-08:002010-02-13T05:42:27.307-08:00Kayce! I read recently that when we don't obj...Kayce! I read recently that when we don't objectively look at what we need to stay healthy, to be replenished, to promote wellness and wholeness, that we are in fact participating in some form of violence against ourselves. Big right? And who are we to reject God's gifts, God's blessings? This time on Maui is that for you and your family. Receive it. Take a walk on McKenna beach for me. I would recommend Brunch and the Old Plantation Store Resterant. The Volcano Crator at Sunrise and Sunset is another God offerring. Enjoy. Embrace. Safe Journeys. Love, PamelaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15693384.post-80535712073353249102010-02-12T10:45:56.406-08:002010-02-12T10:45:56.406-08:00Thanks so much for verbalizing what so many of us ...Thanks so much for verbalizing what so many of us feel. I, too, have a tendency to downplay my good fortune. But I'm not convinced the guilt is a bad thing; I think it ensures we maintain a healthy awareness of the disparity, and encourages us to make appropriate attempts to balance things out a bit by sharing what we can -- even if, as in your case, it's a promise that we will do our best to share the sunshine!<br /><br />Enjoy your time in Maui; may it replenish your spirits for the work ahead!Diane Walkerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03379544317007203762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15693384.post-33744553616589139192010-02-12T10:40:38.120-08:002010-02-12T10:40:38.120-08:00Oh Lucy,
Surprise, surprise we would have simil...Oh Lucy, <br /><br />Surprise, surprise we would have similar thoughts. You echo mine well in this post. I've even felt guilty saying to those who ask about our length of stay that we are staying for a month.<br /><br />I've ways to deflect my guilt e.g. pledging to the little church we attend here on Maui, sending an extra donation to Episcopal Relief and Development - all easy financial ways to salve my conscience.<br /><br />I think the best way for me though is to give thanksgiving over and over and over each day for the joy of this rest and restoration for the joy and gift of life.<br /><br />Thank you for your post:) xoxoDianna Woolleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11901349180265745138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15693384.post-82659467357545879482010-02-12T09:53:23.810-08:002010-02-12T09:53:23.810-08:00Lent is coming, so I will try to rein in the envy!...Lent is coming, so I will try to rein in the envy! Have a wonderful time restoring yourself. We all share vicariously in your Maui.Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17078914306329037697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15693384.post-86818763220142707912010-02-12T09:18:40.035-08:002010-02-12T09:18:40.035-08:00Absolutely! I have friends who are going through s...Absolutely! I have friends who are going through some rough patches, and I often hold back on the goodness that's happening to me. It just doesn't seem right--when I being told about lost jobs and debt and all that, to go on about my own good fortune. I always find myself focusing on them, talking about what's going on in their lives--and then a small part of me feels a bit resentful because I do feel compelled to hide...crazy, yes.<br /><br />In any case, have a fantastic time in Hawaii!Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09182248478422009913noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15693384.post-8883144811598338402010-02-12T06:51:02.706-08:002010-02-12T06:51:02.706-08:00We human beings are graced with the ability to emp...We human beings are graced with the ability to empathize. That's something unique to us. And out of that comes acknowledgment that our well-being necessarily is connected to others' well-being and that we have the means, if we look for it, to help those unlike us find some measure of well-being, and they in turn do the same. We are none of us perfect and we all have gifts to share. When we give and give those gifts without renewal we become dry wells. Even priests take sabbaticals.<br /><br />I choose not to see my good fortune through a film of guilt. It's self-defeating. It robs me of precious energy to cross thresholds into those spaces where others unlike me are found, into places where I can offer my gifts in love and gratitude and see them multiply. <br /><br />God loves us as we are, and so we must love ourselves to do God's work. Whether we have more or less than another is not what's important. What's important is what we do with what we have. And that we do it with passion.Maureenhttp://writingwithoutpaper.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.com